The Sweetest Ritual: Honoring The Heart’s Softest Desires

There is a tradition that many of us Detroiters grew up with. A day dedicated to “Sweetest Day.” While its roots are firmly planted in the Midwest and for men, the sentiment behind it is something that every woman, no matter where she is, can feel in her bones. It’s the idea that life is made richer by small, intentional acts of kindness. But in my world, I’ve realized that the sweetest love story I will ever tell is the one I am writing for myself.

We often spend so much energy being the “sweetheart” for everyone else. We are the supportive friend, the dedicated student, the talented performer, the motivating mate, and the reliable daughter. But how often do we stop to be the sweetest for the woman in the mirror?

This October, I am inviting you into a different kind of ritual. I call it the Sweetest Ritual, and it’s not about waiting for someone else to bring you flowers or a box of chocolates. It’s about the quiet sovereignty of choosing yourself, every single day.

The Art of the Small Gesture

The sweetest moments aren’t always the grand ones. They are the small, soft gestures we make toward our own peace. The small things really do matter!

• The Morning Invitation: Start your day with a candle from your own collection or you can purchase one from my store. Light it before you even check your phone. Let the scent be the first thing that greets your senses, reminding you that your peace is THEE priority.
• A Love Letter to the Future: Take five minutes to write in your PinkPrint Journal or any journal you have and state one thing you are proud of yourself for accomplishing this week. We are so quick to criticize our flaws and setbacks; use this time to celebrate your black magic.
• Adorned in Comfort: Choose an outfit that feels like a hug. Whether it’s a soft knit from my apparel line or your favorite silk scarf, dressing for your own comfort is a radical act of self-love.

The Sacred Reset

As the season shifts and the air grows cooler, our bodies crave a different kind of attention. My Sweetest Ritual always ends with a moment of physical restoration. I’ve been leaning into giving myself a mandatory 3-hour nap in the middle of the day as a way to say “thank you” to my body for everything it carries. When you treat your body with luxury and rest, you are telling yourself that you are worthy of the best.

This weekend, I challenge you to be your own first priority. Buy yourself the flowers. Take the long way home to see the leaves change while you’re listening to old school R&B that spoke about real love. Speak to yourself with the same tenderness you would give to someone you love. You are building a life of excellence, but don’t forget to make it a life of sweetness, too. Both can exist in the same space!

Stay feminine, stay focused, and remember: Your kindness toward yourself is a divine decree. You are a Goddess who knows that the sweetest love story is the one you write for your own heart, and your tenderness is your strength. You’re just a woman, but the world is made sweeter simply because you are in it.

With love,